CALM DOWN

How and when you express anger will depend to some extent on the circumstances. But, in any cases smart first step is cool down - till some of the heat of the moment dissipates.

• Count upto 10 (or 100 if necessary)!
• Calm your infuriating thoughts by distracting yourself for a moment.
• Chant to yourself - "I must bring my temper under control". Leave the environment, if possible, for a while.
• Work off some immediate tensions by taking a brisk walk, engaging in a vigorous activity or talking to a friend.

When it comes time to address the cause of your anger, don’t underestimate the value of courtesy.

When you are feel strong and sudden anger:

• Describe what you see.
• Describe what you feel.
• Describe what needs to be done.
• Do not attack the person.

Expressing anger must serve a purpose – but it should be helpful, not hurtful.

A special word of caution for parents with young children: when you tell them you’re angry, be sure to make it clear that you dislike the child’s behaviour and not the child. A child may misunderstand parental anger and take it to mean he or she is a bad person.

Why express anger at injustice?

Sometimes anger in the name of social justice is morally necessary. Used constructively, anger can effect change.

Isn’t anger a bad emotion?

Our emotions are a gift from God. Anger itself isn’t bad unless you consent to some word or action that is destructive.